NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio's wife posted some tips for what to do if you see an Asian person being attacked. For some reason none of them involve calling the police.
· Mar 9, 2021 · NottheBee.com

Chirlane McCray, New York City mayor Bill De Blasio's wife, has some helpful anti-crime tips for us.

As attacks on Asian American communities continue, we're asking New Yorkers to show up for their neighbors and intervene when witnessing hateful violence or harassment.

I sure hope she isn't suggesting someone call 9-1-1 so a properly equipped police officer specifically trained to deal with such situations can address the hateful violence. Were I such a victim I'd much prefer a random bystander intervene directly on my behalf.

It‘s just common sense.

I know that can be frightening when you aren't sure what to do or say, but you can learn.

I'm assuming she has some experience in relevant fields like poetry and speech writing, to help us learn.

Ready?

Fear is a normal feeling when stepping into a confrontation, but being prepared can help. I'll share @iHollaback's 5 D's, which are easy to remember tactics that we can all use to de-escalate a situation.

Preparation is very important, and as I understand it, a Twitter thread is pretty much equivalent to six months of police academy training.

Just try interrupting it. Ignore the harasser and engage directly with the person who is being targeted by asking a question like, "What time is it?"

So, the plan is when I come across "violence" in which a person is "causing harm," I should ask the victim what time it is.

Got it. I'll start practicing tonight until it becomes pure animal instinct.

"I know what you're thinking. Is it 6 o'clock or only 5? Well, to tell you the truth, in all the excitement I kind of lost track myself. But being that this is a 44mm TAG Heuer, the most accurate timepiece in the world, and can adjust to daylight savings time in the blink of an eye, you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel lucky?' Well do ya, punk?"

One question: What if they answer, "It's time to call the police?"

2. Delegate: Scan a situation to assess risk and determine how to best intervene, and delegate tasks.​​

Do you mean delegate the task to the police? Because I'm starting to think that might be best for everyone involved.

Take a look at your surroundings. If you can, find someone in a position of authority, tell them about the situation and ask if they can help.

Oh, so, we're playacting scenarios now? Assuming I can't get a cell signal or something?

3. Document: Support a person in crisis by recording on your phone or writing notes, but please don't share a video without the consent of the person being harmed.​

Say the date and time, and show the location if you can. Most importantly, keep a safe distance!

I like the safe distance idea. A lot. But now that I'm safe, maybe I can call the police? They often have body cams. Those are great for documentation!

4. Delay:

I feel like we were already doing a lot of that.

Check in with the survivor after the incident.

That seems like you're assuming a lot.

This shows them that they are valued.

Because you cared enough not to call anyone.

This is a great way to support your neighbor if you aren't feeling confident in the moment.

I'll be honest. I'm pretty confident in my ability to dial three numbers. I feel like the whole 9-1-1 thing should be moved way up the decision tree.

Ask how they're doing, if they need support or if you can help them file a report.

File a report? With, oh I don't know, the police maybe?

5. Direct: Respond directly to the aggressor or physically intervene and only after assessing the situation. Be confident, assertive, calm.

Confident, assertive, calm. Got it!

This is risky, but sometimes all we can do is speak up.

Wait, "all we can do is speak up?"

You said to respond physically!

If the harasser responds,...

Oh no!

...try your best to focus on assisting the person targeted.

I'll try not to bleed on them too much.

McCray got quite a response to her suggestions. Most along the lines of this.

And this.

And a whole lot were making the novel suggestion to, you know, go with the 6th "D" For "Dial the police!"

Despite the responses (and they are worth a look!) she did not delete the tweet. She actually pinned it.

While her 5D program is clearly not for everyone, there is some precedence for this in New York City.

Snopes notes that the claim remains "unproven," so I'm going with "100% True."

That's usually a safe bet with Snopes.

In the meantime I'm picturing how McCray would herself respond to such a situation...


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