In a letter to advice columnist Amy Dickinson, a mother desperately asked for affirmation for the way she and her bridezilla daughter treated her brother, "Dave".
It turns out Dave is a conservative, and her daughter is "very politically progressive." As such, the daughter felt "unsafe" with Uncle Dave around.
The mother says,
"She and Dave have always had a good relationship (I thought), he is a conservative voter and has supported candidates we all abhor.
"Dave has always been very nice, so my daughter's request surprised me."
But it was her daughter's special day, so the mother wrote her brother and told him they weren't comfortable with him coming to the wedding, so he was not invited.
The mother then details two shocking turns of events:
- She hasn't heard from Dave since then. Not just that, but her other siblings are mad at her for the way she treated him.
- Dave didn't bother to send the bride a wedding gift.
"In the past, Dave has given family members wedding checks in excess of $1,000.
"She says she was counting on receiving the same type of gift."
The mother then gives her plea for advice.
Not real advice that might actually help, but the affirming kind that tells her she did the right thing, and acknowledges that Dave is definitely a far-right, domestic terrorist for not sending her snowflake daughter $1,000.
"How can I get my brother to recognize and change his petty behavior?
"Please don't tell me that I'm the one who started this by not inviting my brother to the wedding. After all, he's a grown man, while my daughter is young and just starting out."
The advice columnist's response is perfect.
She says,
In short: Brides who are too afraid of family members to invite them to a family wedding don't then get the pleasure of receiving their money.
You seem almost as afraid of your daughter as she is of your brother, but I hope you'll find a way to courageously tell her that the Bank of Uncle Dave is closed, at least to your branch of the family.
So far, your silent brother is the only family member who is behaving appropriately. He's steering clear, which is exactly what you have asked him to do.
In other words, go melt, snowflake.
Thanks to Not the Bee user @leamcwho for the head's up about this article.
