The bro community is down in the dumps today, wondering if there's anything good left on God's green earth.
From that Page Six report:
Though an insider told People that Bündchen and [Ju-Jitsu instructor Joaquim] Valente did not begin dating until June 2023 — eight months after Brady and the mom of two finalized their divorce — the former Tampa Bay Buccaneers quarterback reportedly isn't buying her timeline.
"If she wants to have people think she has been dating Joaquim only since June, so be it, but they have been together longer and they aren't taking it slow. Tom has accepted it," the source told Daily Mail.
Bros, King Solomon was right.
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
Whenever stories like this drop, I see a lot of reactions online from the trad-and-Chad bros about how women can't be trusted and marriage is overrated and the solution is to move deep into the woods where you can pump iron, mine crypto, and eat raw steak.
(Sometimes 3D printing guns is on the list but we don't talk about that.)
It saddens me to see this. Men have been withdrawing from society my whole life, and I get it. Western culture hates men. It expects them to temper their masculinity, calling it toxic. It demands they be soft, tender, and pliable - clean-shaven cubicle dwellers in polo shirts and khakis who put aside their hopes and dreams to be the perfect counterpart to the modern girlboss.
In many ways, our culture is a twisted inverse of the 1950s abusive husband trope. Instead of an overbearing, career-driven man who expects his wife to cater to his demands, our culture now expects men to be women so women can be the overbearing man.
If you think I'm wrong, please explain the "babygirl vibe."
Sure, men can have their sportsball and their beer, but anything that demonstrates actual strength, courage, and conquest is firmly discouraged.
The way men get out of this hyper-feminized environment is to set up their own parallel economy. Like Fight Club, it isn't talked about.
How do you think most corporate HR departments would respond if they found out you and some of the boys were rucking over the hills to play war games like this 👇
You know the answer to that, because most men who work at those corporations would be reprimanded if they wore a certain red hat that expresses the general political opinions of roughly half a nation of 334 million.
And heaven help you if you do something so dangerous as to wear that red hat in public!
And so, men have withdrawn. They've withdrawn from corporations, the academy, politics, and churches. And now, seeing the miseries of no-fault divorce and a culture that tells women to never be satisfied, to follow their hearts, and to live their truths, men want to withdraw from marriage and the family.
My brothers in Christ:
Don't.
I'm gonna drop a bit of wisdom here from CS Lewis for ya:
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.
Are you concerned with valor? Do you want to live well and die well?
Then be vulnerable.
I'm not talking about the squishy "tell your feelings to everyone all the time" that evangelly pastors seem obsessed with these days.
I'm talking about putting yourself out there by engaging with the world and our culture even though it is going to cause you pain. I'm talking about giving literally everything you have, even when people betray you and cheat on you and vilify you, because it is the noble and courageous thing to do.
The measure of your strength and honor will come through how you bear the weight of your suffering. If you want to live well and die well, then you must not wall yourself off in a solitary fortress.
You must fight the actual demons taking over our world.
And yes, that will be hard. Your might get fired. CNN might call you a racist. Your wife might leave you. You might not have a life of leisure.
But if you're sitting over there ready to take the black pill because there's no hope, then you're already lost ... and no amount of pleasure or wealth is going to change that. You can retreat to the woods to wait for the Boogaloo or subscribe to the nonsense of influencer dummies that promise to make you an alpha male - either way, you're a sad little boy who doesn't actually know what living and dying well means. Satan already has you right where he wants you: Isolated, deluded, and filled with despair.
The good things worth fighting for outnumber the bad by ten to one if you are willing to see them. There are virtuous, honest women out there. Because they too are human, they are broken, but their value cannot be underestimated. Finding a woman who will help you engage with this world is like having a shield in the midst of battle. She is your help, your reward, your legacy. The world would be a dark and depressing place without her.
An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.
Perhaps we've forgotten what the standard of excellence is. It doesn't, as Tom Brady fans might believe, mean "supermodel."
See, Tom Brady is the peak of male vitality, success, and attractiveness. He has it all.
But he doesn't have wisdom, which is worth more than a million Super Bowl rings. He married a woman known for being a Victoria's Secret "angel." A woman who has appeared scantily-clad on hundreds of magazine covers. A women who dated Leonardo DiCaprio before she met Brady and decided to leave DiCaprio because she wanted "to do some serious soul-searching" while he wanted to "[stay] the same."
Brady, meanwhile, had a pregnant ex-girlfriend, actress Bridget Moynahan, when he and Gisele Bündchen started dating. Brady was raised Catholic, but in 2015, he said this about God and faith: "I don't know what I believe. I think there's a belief system, I'm just not sure what it is."
So let's go back up to one of the comments above.
She's rich, married to a tall, extremely popular, equally wealth [sic] man, who by all accounts, had remained faithful to her. If Tom Brady can't keep his wife happy, what message does that send about getting married?
What message does it send?
Here's the thing: Tom Brady didn't get cheated on in spite of Tom Brady, but because Tom Brady is Tom Brady - a wildly talented man who isn't serving God, who doesn't know the truth or his purpose or his destiny, who therefore can't lead his family, and who is caught up in fame and fortune with an ex-wife who became famous by modeling her body for the entire world.
It isn't "even Tom Brady got cheated on."
It's a lesson to not be like Tom Brady.
There is much to fight for in this world; don't let men captured by devils be your benchmark for valor, love, and glory.
