If you haven't seen it, this clip from Netflix's Love is Blind went viral as a cultural flashpoint on politics and relationships:
The premise of the show is simple: Can you fall in love with someone without ever seeing them?
The current furor comes after oncology nurse Sara Carlton left her fiancé Ben Mezzenga standing at the altar because he wasn't woke enough:
Stunning blonde oncology nurse Sara Carlton walked out of her wedding to Ben Mezzenga in a season 8 finale shocker because he didn't have the same woke views as her on Black Lives Matter, gay marriage and 'the vaccine.'
Both were dressed to the nines and moments away from tying the knot when Carlton, 29, said it wasn't meant to be because she 'always wanted a partner to be on the same wavelength' as her.
Given the country's recent recoil from the ideological poison that is wokeism, it's perhaps unsurprising that Mezzenga has been receiving a great deal of sympathy from viewers, with several suggesting he "dodged a bullet" with Carlton.
I understand the sentiments expressed there and don't disagree that Carlton seems to have allowed pet political preferences to become her religion. But at the risk of sounding like David French writing "The Conservative Case for Woke Women Leaving Churched Men at the Altar," I have to say I'm with Carlton's decision on this one.
To be clear, that doesn't mean I agree with her politics. But even a brief bit of looking into this situation and what you find out is that she was fairly up front and honest from the start about her convictions. Mezzenga was not.
She was consistently trying to force deep, probing conversations about what he really believes, what he really values, what his philosophical views are, and he seemed passive and compromising at best. Unable to get him to talk to her about what drove him and animated his soul, she took it upon herself to research his church. She found that his church believed in and espoused God's moral guidelines for human sexuality, and she disagreed with it. She prefers to make up her own guidelines based on her subjective views and opinions of the moment. It's a bad standard, to be sure, but she's far from the only one worshipping the spirit of the age.
No one, certainly not Carlton, could really be sure what Mezzenga worshipped.
Maybe it's true that Mezzenga has never really given his values much thought, and didn't really care about truth. That's a red flag.
Maybe it's true that Mezzenga really does have more conservative views but was willing to compromise them or downplay them to be with the attractive woke girl.
Maybe it was that Mezzenga preferred to keep serious, deep discussions like that off camera, though it's odd to agree to go on a show like this if that's the case.
I have no idea what it was, and neither did the woman he was asking to marry him. How could I, or anyone, fault her for not being comfortable doing so?
Disagree all you want with Sara Carlton's convictions and beliefs. But let's not fault her for actually having some.
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